Unrequited love is very painful experience. It hurts when you feel so intensely for somebody, but yet that person does not love you back. It can be really torturous.
So learning to deal with unrequited love is a difficult task. Every time you think of that person you feel hurt and rejected and humiliated. That is a terrible emotional state to be in. And it is very important for your own happiness that you will find a way to cope with this situation without it eating you up emotional.
Love is a very strong emotion, and you really cannot control, you can’t just switch it off. Even when your mind and your logical thinking tells you that you should not love that person anymore and that you should not feel all that affection towards him or her, your heart might still feel the same way.
For some people, it’s the unrequited love for someone who just doesn’t love you and is not romantically interesting in you. For others, it’s the unrequited love after a partner has broken up with them – and it feels as if you’ve lost everything that felt good about you.
Maybe you have friends who were telling you the same thing. They might ask you: “why do you still love him?” Or: “why do you still love her?” But you really cannot answer that question. You don’t know the reason why you love him or her so much. Still, despite it being in vain. Maybe there is no reason. It’s just the way it is and there is nothing that you can do about it. At least that is the way you probably feel about it.
I really do not want to sound like everybody else was talking with you about this. But if you really feel that there’s nothing you can do about it, then you belief in an illusion. The intensity of your emotion holds the veil in front of your eyes that you can’t see clearly. Because there are in fact things you can do to better deal with unrequited love. It won’t be over by tomorrow. But it will save much quicker than you are now thinking possible, if you do the right things.
Because in the end we are the master of our own lives. And I know it’s very hard feel that way when you suffer from unrequited love. But you can change your thinking. And you’re thinking influences your emotions. And there are psychological techniques of changing emotions, transforming negative emotions into more powerful and resourceful emotions.
On this website you’ll find different methods and ways of learning to cope with unrequited love. I know that you’re in deep pain. But please, do not give up hope. There is something that you can do, and no matter how far out of reach happiness might seem to you right now, you will be pleasantly surprised how fast you will be able to enjoy life to the fullest again.
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