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I created this site for you because I think there really isn’t that much good help and advice on the Internet that helps you to better deal with unrequited love.

I know from my own experience how hard and painful that can be to suffer from unrequited love. It literally brought me to the verge of suicide, and I was ready to go. I’m still not sure what saved me. after that experience things slowly, step by step started to get better. I share my own experiences on this website, and they share advice helped me to find my way back to happiness. I found a new love, and I got over the old one, and I’m in a very, very happy relationship and found a partner of my life. I hope this website will help you do the same so that you can experience the joy that comes from a shared, deeply connected and loving partnership with your soulmate.

If you have questions, comments or ideas please send them to me, I want to hear them and if I have advice I will be glad to share with you.

I used to publish my e-mail address on the website, but I get so much spam and advertising that I do not do that anymore. But on this website you can see how to get the Unrequited Love Advisor. Just put your e-mail in the small box. You will then receive the Unrequited Love Advisor, and inside you find my personal contact e-mail address. Send me an e-mail, and I will reply to you for sure.

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Jack June 23, 2010 at 8:40 am

dear webmaster
thanks so much for creating this website. it’s been so healing for me to read your words. you understand my turmoils and suffering. its’ great to know that somewhere out there is so sympathetic with what i am going through.
i’d like to get the Unrequited Love Advisor. please send it to my email. thank you!
jack

anne gordon August 8, 2010 at 12:14 pm

I’m interested in your advice

Shelby April 15, 2011 at 1:16 pm

I can full admit that I’m young and naive. I understand that I have growing up to do still. But, I do know these exact feelings for a person, and I do know it almost drove me to suicide. I’d love to hear more advice as to start moving forward.

Tim from Unrequited Love Help April 16, 2011 at 7:15 am

Hi Shelby,
thanks for your comment. When we’re young, we often overrreact emotionally and dramatize things. But that doesn’t mean we are incapable of loving deeply and truly, and many grown ups don’t understand that. I hope you have someone who can help you to move through this. I sent you an email too, since I don’t know enough about your situation right now.
Tim

Yvonne September 26, 2011 at 2:49 am

Hi Tim! (how ironic that you have the same name as the man I love!)
My problem is, this man is my boss.
I often think I’m losing my mind!
We have worked together for 8 years now and we’re still awkward with one another!
What is that…me? him? us both?
I know I’m in love with him…he has never been anything but professional with me and I with him…but he does some incredibly nice things for me…like renting me a cheap apartment,hooking up my tv and internet for free,most recently, this past week, he offered me a printer for my computer cuz I had told him I was looking for one…
but he has a hard time to look me in the eye when he talks to me…WTF!?
Or am I just imaging it all!?…help!!

Tim from Unrequited Love Help September 27, 2011 at 6:22 am

Hi Yvonne,
thanks for your comment. It’s difficult to state anything about your situation without actually being there. But I hope for you that it’s not unrequited love but that things will have a happy end for both of you. If I were you, I’d probably start expressing romantic interest, e.g. ask him out for a nice dinner or go to watch a movie together.
Maybe you make him insecure/shy, or is afraid that he will put you in a bad spot if he expresses interest in you and you reject him (since he’s your boss), or maybe he really just is a nice and helpful person but has no romantic interest in you. From what you’ve written, I think you should find out which is the case.
Good luck,
Tim

Sarah October 11, 2011 at 3:53 am

dear website owner,
thank you so much for this website. unrequited love has been a “curse” for me for a long time. when i was in high school, i had the biggest crush on a junior ( i was a sophmore) and he was perfect…shaggy blonde hair, blue eyes and so handsome. he had a girlfriend and i remember just crying because i couldnt have him. i sent him a love poem off the internet and it kinda freaked him out. he knew me from the drama club but he just didnt like me because i came too strong on him. hey, i was young and didnt know any better. now this “curse” hit me again. i am madly in love with one of the pro dancers on ABC’s “dancing with the stars” derek hough. i got to meet him and he was nice to me and all but being a beliver of “love at first sight” i thought that would happen. but it didnt. sometimes it just hurts that i cant tell him how i really feel of him. i am not in love with him because hes a celebrity, what attracted me was he was nice and kind to me. he was a real gentleman. when i hear he’s got a girlfriend, i get real jealous, although i want him to be happy. i remember one night i heard this song on the radio (called dark waltz from hayley westernra) that fit what i was feeling for derek, and i just sobbed. i didnt want to leave when i met him, i wanted derek to come with me and have lunch together to get to know each other better. but i know it’ll never happen and yes i do feel sad sometimes, but i know god has plans for me and i wont let this saddness get to me. i love this man to death, but i know it will never be. hope you dont think i am a weirdo or a stalker because i am not. i’m just a prisoner of unrequited love. thanks for caring 🙂

Tim from Unrequited Love Help October 14, 2011 at 1:03 pm

Hi Sarah,
thanks for sharing your experiences so boldly. I understand that you’re worried what people might think about you when you tell them that you’re in love with a TV celebrity. But falling in love isn’t something that we make, it’s something that happens to us.
The fact that you accept that he already is in a committed relationship, and that you accept that it will never be, despite your strong feelings for him show that you have a really great heart. I’m wishing you that you’ll fall in love again, just as deeply and intensely, and next time with a guy who is available and feels the same way for you.
For now you might be a prisoner of unrequited love, and I understand how saddening it can be – but you’ll appreciate the blue skies and the sunsets even more when you walk out of that prison. 🙂
It’s great that you find strength in your faith. From the way you write, I really do believe that you will emerge from this difficult experience as an even stronger and wiser human being.
All the best to you,
Tim

Mark October 26, 2011 at 5:51 pm

Tim,

I find the idea of this website intriguing. I am a 40 year old male, divorced father of 3. After my divorce I dated several women which did not lead to any sort of firm or lasting relationships. I met a woman wh I really got along with, and she me. We struck up a very firm friendship, and I began to foster deeper feelings for her. When I expressed my feelings for her, she was kind, but did not recipricate (spelling?). I had resigned myself to just being friends, but she will contact me and insiuate she wants more, but when I pursue, it is the same story. I know she has feelings of more than friendship, but somehow less than love. It is maddening. I have tried just to cut things off, but we always end up talking again, and then my old feelings rise up. I really need to find a way to make this cycle stop, because it truly is consuming me. Any ideas?

Tim from Unrequited Love Help October 27, 2011 at 9:20 am

Hi Marc,
thanks for sharing your story here. It’s a difficult situation, and it’s not easy for me to give advice because there’s still a lot of information that’s left out. But I do want to encourage you in our wish to make this cycle stop – it’s not healthy at all if your relationship with her doesn’t change.
My first idea would be to have a very open and direct conversation with her, at the risk of it breaking your friendship apart. Expect her to make a choice – either to commit to a relationship, or leave things at a friendship. (Or even completely stop contacting each other).
Apart of that – what’s the reason why she doesn’t want a relationship with you? Has she told you? Because if it’s less than love, it’s friendship, but if it’s more than friendship then romance is involved, and that’s enough to start a relationship.
Keep in mind that oftentimes subconscious patterns are involved in these kinds of things. I really can’t give you good advice on that based on just a few sentences, but it doesn’t sound good to me. Maybe the woman you love has unresolved relationship issues herself, and is using you to fulfill an emotional need she has. When I say “using you” I don’t mean in a planned, conscious way, not as she being a bad person, but using you without herself really being aware of it.
These are just suggestions, Mark – and before you act on any of them, consider if you think they fit your situation. But ultimately, anything that can break that circle up is better than forever staying in that loop.
Hope this helps,
Tim

BrokenAngel March 12, 2012 at 1:42 am

You can get over an unrequitted love, TRUST ME BELIEVE ME YOU CAN! I have experienced this to a point where I wanted to end my life. There was not a single day without me shedding tears over him, every day before I went to bed I would drown in misery because I couldn’t see him, because he wasn’t with me. I felt emotions like guilt, anger, I felt pathetic being, feeling like this and then suddenly it hit me. Suddenly it was all very clear to me. While I was throwing my life away for him, he was probably sharing his love with another woman, making her happy. The moment I realised this, I became free from this hell. I opened my eyes to the world, I saw other people, I saw that love isn’t this, that love is safe, love is comfort.

Unrequited love feeds on hope, in order to stop it you must be realistic. It took me 2 years, but I made it and I feel l;ike I’m having my life back.

Good luck to everyone struggling with this.

Tim from Unrequited Love Help March 13, 2012 at 1:36 am

Hi BrokenAngel,
thank you so much for sharing your experience with overcoming unrequited love! And congratulations on having figured your way out of this deep black hole, I know how much strength it takes.
Yes, you are right, in so many cases people hold on to this delusional hope that a person who just isn’t in love with them is somehow just covering up his or her feelings. Realizing that the other person doesn’t feel love for you can be a moment that crushes your heart – but you can work your way through it, rebuild your heart and move on.
Thanks for giving these words of encouragement to the readers here Broken Angel.
Kind regards,
Tim

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