How To Fall Out Of Love With Someone
If you are in love with someone doesn’t love you back, even though we tried already to make him or her fall in love with you, then it’s time on. But even if you physically move on, it’s a lot harder to emotionally move on. This is what I want to talk about it in this article. How you can emotionally detach yourself from somebody and basically how you can fall out of love with someone.
Also, at the bottom of this site there’s a video from Dr. Paul Vehorn, where he talks about how to fall out of love.
Pieces To The Puzzle
I’m going to share different techniques with you that will help you to fall out of love, and it’s important that you realize that not one of these techniques alone is powerful enough to end your affection for that person. But if you combine them together they will create a powerful momentum that will help you to get over that person and move on with your life to find your way back to happiness
The first technique that I want introduce you to is to just take a piece of paper and pen and make a list of all the things that you do not like about the person. Make a list of every time that person make you feel bad in some way. It doesn’t matter whether it was the person’s fault that you felt that or not, just make that list. Write down every little thing about that person that you don’t like. Even if it is just a T-shirt that he or she likes to wear that you think is terrible. It doesn’t matter. You really want to go for the details and visualize all these things.
Again, I know that this technique might seem silly for you. You might say: “Oh that is never going to work!”
You are right. On its own it’s not going to work. But combined with other methods and techniques, it will work. It’s the combination of many small elements that makes the whole system work.
Another thing that you want to do is that you actually remove the things from your life that remind you of that person and that you also avoid contact with that person. Even if you are on any kind of social networking site and you are a friend on the social networking site than just delete that friendship online, because you don’t always want to be reminded of that person and receive notifications and messages of what that person is doing right now. That is torture, and it’s keeping you attached. At one point later in life you might decide you want to establish contact again.
But for, now to end your suffering is important that you avoid contact with that person. It is also important that you avoid things that remind you of the person strongly. So for example if you have pictures of you and that person then put them in an envelope and stack it in a book where you can’t see them. I know that when you are deeply in love with someone almost everything kind of reminds you of the person. But still there are things that remind you more of that person that others and just get rid of the ones that remind you of the person the strongest.
You’re probably also comparing other people to the person. And you probably see all the ways in which other people can’t measure up to that person. They are just not him or her enough. Nobody is, except for that one person. You need to stop that. It’s not that everyone else is less perfect for you, just that your perception and your idea of this person is highly idealized right now, and you apply a filter to everyone else and compare them against the idealized image, and thus nobody can measure up with them. Just stop. Next time you compare someone to that special person, just remind yourself and really say to yourself: “stop, don’t do it!”. And then look for something in the person that you admire you and that you think is great.
Also do not sit at home and think day and night about that person. Instead keep yourself busy and be engaged. I know everything you do can seem meaningless and empty at this stage in your life, but it still is important that you become engaged, become busy. Because it will help you to move on. There are going to be many moments where you feel like: “What am I doing here? All this stuff doesn’t matter. There’s only one thing that matters and I can’t have that.” It’s okay to feel that way, in fact, part of the recovery process. Just focus yourself back on what you’re doing, find activities that might be a little bit more meaningful to you.
There’s a lot more to how fall out of love with somebody and again, these are just some pieces to the puzzle, some elements of the whole machinery. To make it all work you need to live in a systematic way to get a so that you can get the strength to move on and enjoy happy life. That is why I created the Unrequited Love Advisor for you. A systematic way falling out of love with someone and moving on with your life on your way to happiness.
Here’s also the video I promised you on how to fall out of love:
And here is another video on how to get over a breakup:
And one more video about how to get over heartbreak by Joe Cuenco, author of “Married for 5,000 Years”:
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