Unrequited Love Hurts
Anyone who has ever experienced unrequited love knows how much it hurts. I think it’s really one of the most painful experiences a human being can go through, maybe with the exception of a parent losing a child. Life turns into a living hell when you love somebody that just isn’t in love with you. Unrequited love this to be the different from feeling heartbroken. It’s much more than being heartbroken.
When you’re heartbroken then you probably have a crush on somebody or you feel affection, or are in love with someone who doesn’t love you back. It’s painful, that you will get over it.
But unrequited love is really a much more intense and much more painful state to be in. It’s about having found a partner of your dreams, the person that you want to share your life with, person that you feel fate has brought into your life, the perfect match for you — but the other person not being able to recognize that.
And that can make everything else fade grey. Everything else doesn’t matter anymore, because the only thing that truly matters is that one very special person. You are made for each other.
If you experienced unrequited love, many people will not understand it. They will think that you’re heartbroken. But they don’t understand how much more intense unrequited love really is. And to most people that would be frustrating. But to you, even that doesn’t matter anymore. Nothing matters. Because the one thing that can make everything else matter isn’t there. The love of your perfect match.
If you’re reading this and you can relate to it, if it kind of resonates with you, then please do not believe your own thoughts when you think that it’s hopeless. Yes, it probably is not worth hoping for that that person will somehow fall some reason finally fall in love with you. But your life and your happiness is not hopeless. You can find your way back to happiness, and you can fall in love again. And I know maybe you don’t believe me now, maybe you think you can never fall in love like that again. And that’s true if you stay attached to that love, if you keep on clinging to that love. But if you find a way to let go of it, then you will be able and open to receive new love, to experience it. I understand that this probably sounds unbelievable to you. And this probably sounds that I do not really understand your situation.
And maybe that is true. After all, I have never met you and I have never talked with you in person. But if you can relate to the feelings that I have described before, if you feel that your life is hopeless and empty and meaningless because the one thing that matters isn’t there, then I think I do understand you. Because I’ve been there. I know from my own bitter experience with unrequited love feels like and how painful it can really be. It brought me to the verge of suicide. I was really ready to go. And until this day I am not sure what saved me. But something did save me, and I did found my way back to happiness, and I did find new love, true love again. But this time it’s a share love, it’s a happy relationship, I found my partner in life. I believe that you can do the same.
Maybe you feel like you in that person are made for each other, maybe you feel it’s fate. Till this day I still believe that my love for the person who did not reciprocitate my love was fate. Because if it hadn’t been for that love, and the pain and suffering caused me, and the transformative process that it led to, I would probably never have found my true partner in life.