Unrequited Love – Kill Your Suicide Thoughts

Unrequited love is one of the most painful experiences a human being can go through. It can bring you to the verge of suicide, and it has caused countless people take their own lives. I almost was one of them, and I want to share with you how I found my way back to happiness, and more importantly how you can do the same

If you love someone so deeply and with all your heart is painful and torturous to not be loved back. Maybe you feel hopeless and desperate. Maybe your life has turned into an endless stream of deep emotional pain. Maybe a few overwhelmed by uncontrollable thoughts and feelings. And maybe you think that the only solution, the only way out is suicide.

I can understand you. I’ve been there. I was ready to go. I almost did. I still don’t know what held me back, still don’t know what exactly safe to me. Sometimes I think it’s a guardian angel that came into my life saved me when I needed to be saved the most. But from that moment on things started to get better. I was still suffered and still in pain, but slowly a realization crept into my mind. I realized that I had to do something about my emotional state, and more importantly I realized that I could do something, that I was not just a victim of a bad joke that fate played with my life.

Our life is all we have in this world. And it’s up to us what we make of it. Maybe right now feel that this world is not a good place to be and that this life is not worth having, but I promise you, as someone who has been there, the world still is a beautiful place in the life you have is absolutely worth fighting for. And that’s what you got to do. You have to fight for it. You have to fight against the depressing feelings that try to control you. You have to fight against the suicide thoughts that are tempting you to try the easy way out. A fight is not won or lost with one hit. A war is not won or lost in one battle. Sometimes you would strike, sometimes he will be struck. Sometimes you will win the battle, sometimes you will lose the battle. But never loose the war. Win the fight.

The hardest part of the fight is not being hit. The hardest part of the fight is to continue to fight when you think it’s not worth it. Unrequited love can get you to that point where you’re ready to commit suicide, because you think it’s not worth it. But if you just get over that point. If you just get behind that moment where you think it’s not worth, he will tap into a new source of strength and joy and happiness in your life. And you will be able to become a new you. You will be able to become the true you. The you that is happy, joyful, and giving and sharing, and creating a better work for other people, and making other people happy, sharing the joy with them, experiencing bliss of life together with other people.

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Noah February 1, 2010 at 5:28 am

It sounds nice but the reality of having your loved on say to you I love you but I am not in love with you puts me in a quandry. I love this person to the core of my being and have for 28 years while in the end she chose another who is verbally abusive to her and controlling just deepens my depression. She allowed her equally overbearing and controlling father to keep us apart and kill our baby when were young but adults non the less, she chose her father over me and aquiessed to his demands for an abortion. A needless death and one I have yet to recover from since it would have been my only child. Throught this with gods help I forgave her this and in the end she threw it in my face and blind sided me by finding another while we were together. Call me a sap but I just can’t turn love on and off, say I love you one moment and buzz off the next.when I fell in love with her it was forever and I can’t get past it, I have tried but all attempts have failed miserably. If I could find the part of my soul responsible for this I wish I could remove it, it causes me too much pain, my heart is in a million fragments with her memories attatched to every piece. I can barely watch shows like the notebook without overwhelming feelings of despare, it sucks

Tim from Unrequited Love Help February 3, 2010 at 11:15 pm

Hi Noah,
I’m sorry to read about this. I never had this happen to me and can’t and don’t want to imagine how painful it must be to lose a child and the woman you love this way.
I’m not gonna call you a sap for not being able to “turn love on and off” – if you could do that with your feelings for her, it wouldn’t be love.
But what I can tell is that you’ve been through a lot of bad stuff, and it’s my sincere feeling that you need to take some repair time and to work your way through some things.
After some point, each person is responsible for him and herself. She has chosen to be in an abusive relationship, she has chosen to let her father control her, she has chosen to kill that baby. When she was a child, she might not have had a choice, but as an adult, she did – and I’m sure you’ve tried a lot to help her make a better decision. But ultimately, it was her turn. I think you still feel responsible for her, and you’re blaming yourself for the life she has chosen – and you need to let that go. I’m not saying you need to let go of loving her. I think there’s a lot of stuff that needs to get cleared up before you can figure out what to do with the love you feel for her. But whatever the case is, I am sure that you can get through this. I hope somehow this more than just “sounds nice” to you and can provide some kind of help, but I don’t claim or promise it will – I just hope. But you already said that with Gods help you mustered up the strength to forgive once. Your faith can be a great source of inner strength and wisdom, and all I’m asking you is to believe that in this life, you can be a happy person and live a fulfilled life.
Wishing you the best,
Tim

Vermilion August 31, 2010 at 11:48 pm

I don’t know what’s keeping me here…

I love her…I love her…my godess…

oil February 4, 2011 at 9:35 am

I love her….lord help me

Liv October 2, 2011 at 9:22 pm

I Love him, Please Save me from myself.

George July 22, 2012 at 4:45 am

Just wanted to share this poem I found:
“Instead of killing yourself wait until a year from now where you say,
“Holy fuck, I can’t believe I was going to kill myself before I etcetera’d…
before I went skinny dipping in Tennessee,
made my own IPA,
tried out for a game show,
rode a camel drunk,
skydived alone,
learned to waltz with clumsy old people,
photographed electric jellyfish,
built a sailboat from trash,
taught someone how to read, etc. etc. etc.”
The red washing
down the bathtub
can’t change the color of the sea
at all.”
— Instead of Killing Yourself, Derrick C. Brown.

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