Unrequited Love – Moving On Or Trying Harder?
Coping with unrequited love is very hard. Loving someone intensely and not being loved back as painful and it hurts and it can be humiliating.
There’s one thing that can make it even worse. Maybe you are not sure which way to go from here. Maybe you think it’s best to just accept that the other person doesn’t love you, and to find a way to cope with that and move on forward. Trying to find happiness anyway, even without the person that you love so deeply.
But maybe you think that there still is a chance that that person might finally fall in love with you. Maybe you think that the person just gets to know you better, if the person really sees you for who you are that he or she will then also fall in love with you and that it’s going to be a love story with a happy end. Maybe that person is in a relationship right now already, and you think that his or her partner is not the right fit for him or her. Maybe you think that person is betraying the love of your life,
I know it’s a very difficult situation to be. Maybe you feel like your heart is being torn apart. And of course I cannot tell you what is the right decision to make, because both of these options are possible. And when it comes to love, when it comes to such an important thing for your emotional well-being and happiness, and maybe even fate, then you don’t want to just guess. And you shouldn’t just guess. It’s your life. And that is an important part of your life.
But let me tell you something that I don’t enjoy telling you, and you probably will not enjoy reading. Just the fact that you’re reading this right now means that it is much more likely a better way to just accept that this love is made to be, and that you should move on and find your happiness without the person that you feel for so deeply now. Sweet hopes and secret wishes will try to lead you astray. It is human nature: if we want something really bad, we are much more willing to believe anything that might be a sign that there actually is a possibility, a slight chance of us getting it. But if the other person doesn’t love you and you openly showing your feelings and you have tried to create some attraction, and you have share what’s going on, how you feel, what you hope for, what you wish for, and that other person still doesn’t love you, then please move on.
You’re not only torturing yourself if you cling to the love, if you are unwilling to let go of that hope. You’re also torturing the person that you love.
I know that when you are in unrequited love life can seem like a deep black hole. I’ve been there. And I never want to go back. I thought there was no way out. I even was at the point where I thought that the only way to end the suffering was to end my life. Only later was I able to recognize what a wicked illusion got a hold of me. Fortunately, I finally realized. I am happy now. I found a new love. And I love her even more deeply. And she loves me just as much. It’s happiness. And it’s there for you to take. But you have to let go of that love first, that is causing you so much suffering, before you can find the love that will make you happy.