What Is Unrequited Love?

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According to Wikipedia unrequited love “is love that is not openly reciprocated, even though reciprocation is usually deeply desired. The beloved may or may not be aware of the admirer’s deep affections.”

And while that might be a good dictionary definition of the term, these words really do not describe what unrequited love really feels like and how painful and emotionally inflicting it can be. It can cause people to take their own lives. In fact, unrequited love suicide is quite common and it has always been in human history. Many of the great romance novels, many of the greatest poets have written about unrequited love suicide.

Again according to Wikipedia unrequited love can lead to depression and low self-esteem, anxiety, and rapid mood swings between depression and euphoria.

A study by Dr. Baumeister and Sara Wotman found that about 98% of the population suffered from unrequited love at one point in their life.

I really think that that is not true. I think many people are confusing being heartbroken with unrequited love. Being heartbroken is really a little less troubling and that lot less painful than unrequited love. Unrequited love can make you incredibly desperate and hopeless.

There have been many unrequited love songs because everyone can relate to that. Almost everyone has experienced the milder form of unrequited love, most everyone has experienced being heartbroken. There really is no tests that you can take that can tell you whether you are heartbroken and all whether you suffer from unrequited love. You can’t be analyzed for and diagnosed with unrequited love. The only person who can really say if you suffer from unrequited love or not is yourself.

Maybe have talked with good friends about this subject. And they have probably told you that “time will heal your wounds” and “you will get over this as time passes”. And if you’re heartbroken that’s true. But if you suffer from unrequited love and time will not heal your wounds. Only few will heal your own wounds. But you need to actively do something about it. Maybe you think that there is nothing that you can do about it, but that’s an illusion – you can do something about it! You cannot change it all from one minute to the next, but you can do it step by step, you can learn to move on and find your way back to happiness so that you can enjoy a happy life if you truly deserve and be all that you can be.

But what if you still have hopes that the other person might for some reason fall in love with you in the future? It kind of depends. If you have expressed your true feelings for that person, if you’ve shown the object of your desire that you really and truly and sincerely love him or her that the person doesn’t love you back, and it’s time to move home. But if you have never expressed your feelings clearly, then it’s time to muster up the courage and do it. You cannot know how that person will react. Maybe he or she is willing to engage in a relationship with you, maybe not. Either way that’s good. Because now you’re one step farther ahead. You are not torturing yourself with uncertainties. In another it can be hard and difficult to make that step on to express how you feel, but if you don’t muster up the courage to express, then you do not deserve the other person’s love anyway. I know that might sound harsh, but it’s the truth. If you think openly sharing your feelings is not worth risking your current (platonic) relationship, then it’s YOU who is not ready for a relationship, and then you have to work on yourself before you can expect others to fall in love with you.

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